The 3 main core items one has.
If one lets he thoughts control, he would have not been able to feel what others feel, and therefore he did not care about other people's feelings.
If one lets the senses control, he would have not been able to think logically and make assesment that would control one's doing.
If one lets the feelings control, he would have not been able to judge and sense what is happening around, all he is, is only clouded.
Embracing that you are not your thoughts, senses and emotions, but you are just you, you are departed from these 3 main core items, that is when you know what I am talking about. Try it, tell yourself that you are not your thoughts, your senses, and your feelings.
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